unfriend

 

Yes. I did. I “unfriended” over 400 people from my Facebook personal page, and I’m sure there will be more in the future… and now I feel guilty.

Contrary to what people may think about this, I didn’t do it to be a bitch, or because I hate all those people. I did it because I really don’t know them. Even worse, some of them I didn’t know at all.  If I don’t know you, you can’t possibly be interested in my personal life, right?  (I wanted to post one of those funny memes about unfriending people on Facebook, but most of them were a bit inappropriate. lol)

Once upon a time, in order to add someone to your business page, you had to have them in your personal friends list. (This may still be the case, I’m honestly not 100% sure), but this is why I had well over 1,000 people in my friends list.

I spent many years in network marking and more recently, networking my Virtual Assistant business; therefore, a lot of the people in my friends list are people that I’ve met at a business event.  These people are not family or friends. They are acquaintances that I’ve stayed in touch with because of business. That may sound harsh, but it’s the reality.

What I realized is two-fold:

  1. I no longer enjoy scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed. Why? Because I was seeing more sales posts, network marketing posts and posts from people I don’t know, rather than seeing the posts of my family and friends.
  2. I was so focused on networking and making connections, that I didn’t realize how many strangers I was letting into my personal world.  When I started going through my list, I couldn’t believe how many names I didn’t recognize, and now that I think about it… that’s really, really creepy.

So I made a change and started deleting. I still have more work to do on this clean up as I still have around 700 people on this list, but it’s a good start and all the complete strangers are gone. Phew.

The ones I feel kinda bad about are people that I’ve connected with at networking events, that I actually enjoyed spending time with. But I have to be honest with myself and remember that these people aren’t “friends” either, they are acquaintances… and it may be time to let go.  And that’s where the guilt creeps in.

Guilty feelings aside, the best part of this initial clean-up is that I am now seeing more posts from family and friends, and stuff that I am actually interested in.

The other thing I did in my recent Facebook purge was leaving over 100 Facebook groups! OVER 100 GROUPS! WTH.

Warning… here comes a rant.

First of all Facebook, why. WHY are people allowed to add you to a random group without your permission? This irritates me to no end. Facebook friends, you need to stop adding people to a group without asking them first.  99% of these groups belong to friends in networking marketing.  Don’t get me wrong, I love you and I love your products, but I don’t need to be in 6 Tupperware groups, 8 LipSense groups, and 4 Thirty-One Gifts groups. (I actually use all of these products and love them, so I’m just using them as examples).   The fact of the matter is this… if I want to be in your group, I will join, so ask me first. Period. And if I don’t want to be in your group, please don’t be offended. It’s not you, it’s me.

And for the love of all things holy, if I leave your group, or I unsubscribe from your newsletter, DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT send me a message asking me WHY and DO NOT re-add me either! Talk about friggin awkward and frankly, it’s RUDE!  If I want to leave or unsubscribe, that is my business.  Yes it sucks, I get that, but it’s my choice and for you to “confront” me about it is not cool.  Again, it’s not you, it’s me.

Rant over.

I’ve even started leaving Facebook pages that don’t serve me.  I know we should listen and enjoy the Tony Robbins and Gary V’s of the world, but honestly, I’m not wired that way and can only take so much positivity. LOL  Just kidding. I actually love inspiring posts (I’d rather see those posts than all the negativity that floats around social media), but not 10x a day in my newsfeed.

So, I’d really love your take on this? Is your Facebook family and close friends only, or are you like me and have a bunch of acquaintances and people you don’t know.  Are you part of lots of groups, or just a few select groups? I know my friends Katy of SBT Virtual and Melanie of CyberSmart Canada will definitely chime in and I can’t wait to hear what they have to say on this topic.

Michelle

6 Comments

  • Hey Michelle! My response: good for you! Finally someone who says it like it is! I’ve been added to groups without being asked and I don’t appreciate it either! So thank you for letting others know that they shouldn’t do that! All in all a great post!! 🙂 You made me laugh too!

    • Michelle Callipari says:

      Thank you so much for reading my post Tanja! I appreciate it! We all need to band together and let people know that adding people to a group without prior consent is just bad business!

  • Katy says:

    Dang right I have something to say!!! LOL

    Adding people to Facebook groups without asking them first is just downright rude. Facebook itself needs to step up and do a better job of how that whole process works. As it is right now it gets abused far too often.

    For me personally, when my newsfeed starts getting bogged down with posts from people i don’t know, I unfollow them but don’t unfriend them. It’s part of a larger strategy for me, but it won’t be that way forever.

    As for readding people who unsubscribe from a newsletter????!!!!! Wow… anyone doing that, especially in Canada, needs to have their head shaken. It’s more than rude… It’s illegal! Holy crow!

    • Michelle Callipari says:

      HAHAHAHAHA I Knew you would and I was eagerly anticipating your response! I have unfollowed quite a few people as well. My goal is to see who is actually interacting with me and who isn’t. Then I delete from there. Yes, FB really needs to step up with their groups process. So annoying… especially when I leave a group and then they add me back in? What the… ???

  • Victoria Baird says:

    Hey Michelle, well your subject line certainly got my attention! I took am in the same boat with many aquantainces in my ‘friend’ list. It has been such a odd process, although for the most part it has been a positive experience for me, many people have pushed my limits with either TOO many sell n your face posts, or message and don’t even get me started on the group situation!! Drives me nuts too, not appropriate at all. I choose to unfollow those you annoy me at this point, but have left a good many groups!

    • Michelle Callipari says:

      LOL My subject line changed about a dozen times, but I kept coming back to this one. I too unfollow people, but I really needed to clean house. Honestly, at this point in my life, it is more important to me to see posts from my family and friends, than strangers who have nothing but negativity. Thank you for reading my post. xoxo

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